“In vain have I struggled. It will not do. My feelings will not be repressed. You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you.” -Mr. Fitzwilliam Darcy
Blame it on my unbridled adoration for the predictably happy endings of any given Jane Austen novel. Blame it on the astrological attributes of being an emotionally-infused Pisces. Blame it on the predisposed conditioning of a society where love and romance is everywhere you look. What ever reason I attempt to justify it with, the fact of the matter is I’m a hopelessly hopeless romantic.
So what exactly does being a hopeless romantic entail, one might ask. First and foremost, the slightest gesture of affection, whether it be a simple compliment or even holding the door open for me, gets my heart pounding. If you do both simultaneously, I’m already planning the wedding reception in my head. Okay…. maybe that’s a slight exaggeration, but suffice it say, if you’re sweet to me, I’m hooked. All the fairytale ramblings of what constitutes the perfect relationship immediately spring up in my mind. Surely that must lead to a series of dashed expectations and heartbreak? Yes, of course it does.
The hardest lessons hopeless romantics must learn is to separate the world of Miss Elizabeth Bennett from the world of reality. People are not predictable characters from the pages of fiction, but rather complex creatures capable of all sorts of twists and turns. Intentions are always muggy and one should be careful not to read too much into preliminary gestures until the test of time has proven their validity. Relationships are a give and take that are as never as easy as they seem. It is important before making a commitment that you discover whether you truly love your significant other for who they are, ensuring that it’s simply not the idea of them that you love.
With that being said, one should never be afraid to go out on a limb and endeavor to bring a little fantastical imagery into their lives. There will always be Mr. Willoughby‘s or Mr. Thorpe’s along the way who will dash any expectation of true love and romance, but we are all destined to one day find our own Mr. Darcy. We simply must. So dare to dream. Find the one who gives you a dozen red roses. Seek the one whose idea of the perfect date involves a horse-drawn carriage ride at night. Follow the one who puts in the little extra effort its takes to make a moment go from good to wonderful. But do remain practical and above all else, return the favors and appreciate everything they do for you.
In closing remember that true love is a sacred thing not to be taken lightly. It takes a special person to genuinely pull our heartstrings, as put so succinctly by the Dashwood sisters. “When I fall in love, it will be forever.”
Top Image- http://www.mintafternoon.com/
Middle Gif- Sense and Sensibility, 1995, directed by Ang Lee
Bottom Gif- Northanger Abbey, 2007, directed by Jon Jones